Dream a Little Dream

I have dreams but I dont think I have goals.
I know what I want to do with my life... but no idea how to get there or achieve it.
Since I was a little girl, growing up in South Dakota, I wanted to be a detective. I got my Associates in 2008 in Criminal Justice. I wanted to go back to school to get my Bachelors in Computer/Cyber Crime Investigations. After working at the Dr's office for almost 2 years. I believe I want to change my goal. No idea what it would be called besides fraud investigator but here goes... these are the things I want to do when I grow up and get the job of my dreams.
I want to investigate welfare fraud and child abuse.
I want to be the person who busts the bad guys for trying to lure our young kids online.
I want to be the single mom who invents a program that the government supports that has a system to get our welfare parents off welfare.
There should be a system (something similar to this) that instead of paying food stamps, insurance, housing, etc... we should be teaching these parents how to budget their money. How to clip coupons and learn to use them to get the best deals. We should give the single parents the child support they are "owed"/granted by the state. Instead of making them hope they get a check that month, it should be sent. In the end, instead of paying them in food stamps, TANF, etc the gov should send that check. The absent parent should be held accountable for owing that money back to the government instead of the parent who is busting their ass to make ends meet, missing that quality time with their kids because they have to hold down 2 jobs just to pay necessities (rent, car, insurance, food, etc).

Had this kind of program been around, I would not have lost my home that I purchased all by myself, nor my car. I never would have had to move in with my mother or depend on someone else to help me with money since I could not find a job for a year due to being a stay at home mom, going to school fulltime, babysitting during the day and having my own business on Ebay. According to some, since I didnt work for a year, no matter what I was busy doing in that time period, it looked bad on my resume. No, I do not blame all of those things on someone else. I am an adult and I should have kept a stash for situations such as those. My x worked an awesome job and I was able to quit my miserable job (that caused me to have carpal tunnel in both hands) and stay home with all of our kids (he had 3 girls, and I had 3 boys) and to be able to pursue my education.
I have never wanted to carry a gun when I was a detective, I just wanted to bust the bad guys and not have to deal with them. In some senses I feel myself being pulled towards Social Worker but in the same breath, Im afraid I would turn into Dexter when a case with an abused/neglected child got put on my desk. I would not be able to keep my cool or not do something about it!
I want a peaceful world. I want people to be safe. I want single parents to not suffer. I want kids to have all the things they deserve. I think a parent should be drug screened on a regular basis if they are getting any type of funds from the government. If you do not pass, your money goes into an escrow fund. If you are out drinking every night instead of home with your kids, I want to be the person that stakes you out and gets to turn you in. I want to find you on facebook with all the pics of the "parties" you have went to. I want to be the woman who wears the "S" on my chest and makes a difference.

I am afraid to no avail I will not get to be that woman. I dont want this for myself or my psyche. I want this so that when I go to bed at night, I dont have to worry or think of what awful things someone elses child is suffering because of... lack of good parenting, both parents being in their lives, seeing domestic violence, being molested... and the list goes on. My heart breaks every night to know there are kids out there suffering.
Sometimes I feel like a bad parent because I cannot provide everything my kids want. But then I stop and I think, my kids are healthy. They are happy. They have the basic necessities. When/if the day comes that I cannot do that, I know that I have a good family who will be there for me and have encouraging words for me. I know that not everyone has that and I want to be able to ease a single parents mind at night. I dont want them to have to stay awake with so many worries every night. I cannot tell you how many sleepless nights I have had where I lay in bed every night and wonder how am I going to pay rent this month, how am I going to squeeze the money for gas next week... I can lay there for 4-5 hours with no inkling of sleep coming.
My life is not bad... I have had my rough patches, my ups and downs. I have had people take advantage of me and screw me over. I have had to deal with domestic violence, men who hate my kids because they come first, people who think I dont do what I should as a parent. When this stuff starts to get me down, the only thing I have to remember is not one person out there who "criticizes" me has ever walked a day in my shoes, seen life from my eyes, held my sons hand before surgery, seen the tears when someone they love dies, comforted them when they were sick...
For the parents out there who are not the parent you should be (yeah you know the ones who would rather get laid than parent, would rather drink all night than be a parent, push your kids off on anyone who will take them, spend all your money on drugs instead of necessities for your kids), this message is for you:
Shame on you for taking yourself from your child. No one has the right to make that choice but that child. You should get your crap together, realize that kid needs you. Get your head out of your ass and do what you are suppose to do for those little people who learn everything from you and how you let people treat them! Stand up and do what is right. Pay your child support. Be there when your kids need you! For petes sake, you are only making them suffer. The parent who is there for them, is not suffering. Yeah it might be rough. It might get tough and make us angry... but at the end of the day, my neck is the one they hug, my lips are the ones they kiss, my heart is the one they make happy and my mind is the one at ease because I know I am doing what I can to make great people who will one day make a difference in this world!
So how do you like the fact that I have such an ADD scattered brain that I cannot even stick to one thing to write about... oh well, its late, my mind has purged for the night and I think that I will fall asleep when my head hits the pillow!

If you are a single parent, my heart goes out to you. Do not lose site of what you want, do not lose that love for others. Dont let the tough times make you too bitter... I am learning this all the hard way. I am labeled as the ice princess... but I think deep down Im a big sap, I just dont show it! Good night...